Comments on: The Magic Relationship Ratio http://www.collaborativejourneys.com/2010/06/12/the-magic-relationship-ratios/ ideas, practices, stories... for working together AND resolving challenges Sun, 05 Feb 2012 20:35:08 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Ben Ziegler http://www.collaborativejourneys.com/2010/06/12/the-magic-relationship-ratios/comment-page-1/#comment-533 Ben Ziegler Sat, 11 Sep 2010 16:58:45 +0000 http://www.collaborativejourneys.com/?p=3967#comment-533 Cinn... It's difficult to quantify, with confidence, the effects of positive vs. negative interactions. It helps if you have, like Gottman, 20+ years of detailed observations/data to work with! Cinn… It’s difficult to quantify, with confidence, the effects of positive vs. negative interactions. It helps if you have, like Gottman, 20+ years of detailed observations/data to work with!

]]> By: Cinn Fields http://www.collaborativejourneys.com/2010/06/12/the-magic-relationship-ratios/comment-page-1/#comment-530 Cinn Fields Tue, 07 Sep 2010 23:41:49 +0000 http://www.collaborativejourneys.com/?p=3967#comment-530 In our research we've noted that a negative far outweighs a positive, but this is the first time I've seen it quantified. Very interesting. FWIW, our "laboratory" is an <a href="http://www.lafayettemorehouse.com" rel="nofollow">intentional community.</a> In our research we’ve noted that a negative far outweighs a positive, but this is the first time I’ve seen it quantified. Very interesting.

FWIW, our “laboratory” is an intentional community.

]]> By: Ben Ziegler http://www.collaborativejourneys.com/2010/06/12/the-magic-relationship-ratios/comment-page-1/#comment-423 Ben Ziegler Tue, 15 Jun 2010 15:11:32 +0000 http://www.collaborativejourneys.com/?p=3967#comment-423 Thanks for your feedback Lorne. Yes... the ratio idea is very much 'pay it forward'. On the calculation front, I would add that sometimes it can be helpful to occasionally assess one's positive/negative ratio, especially as one is learning a new habit - e.g., being more positive. Once the habit is internalized, then for sure its as you say ... go with your intuition. Thanks for your feedback Lorne. Yes… the ratio idea is very much ‘pay it forward’. On the calculation front, I would add that sometimes it can be helpful to occasionally assess one’s positive/negative ratio, especially as one is learning a new habit – e.g., being more positive. Once the habit is internalized, then for sure its as you say … go with your intuition.

]]> By: Lorne Daniel http://www.collaborativejourneys.com/2010/06/12/the-magic-relationship-ratios/comment-page-1/#comment-422 Lorne Daniel Tue, 15 Jun 2010 04:36:04 +0000 http://www.collaborativejourneys.com/?p=3967#comment-422 This is good reminder, Ben, of the need to 'pay it forward.' Hopefully we don't have to calculate our positive relationship investments but we do have an intuitive sense that we need many more positives than negatives. This is good reminder, Ben, of the need to ‘pay it forward.’ Hopefully we don’t have to calculate our positive relationship investments but we do have an intuitive sense that we need many more positives than negatives.

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